There Are Good Men Out There

Tonight, I had a minor emergency with a patient and we ended up in the ER. No big deal--just went in to make sure the problem we were having wasn't serious. This was out of the ordinary with this patient but I am cool under pressure and we calmly got to the hospital and did the waiting thing.

What impressed me the most though, was my patient's future son-in-law. When the problem first started happening, he didn't hesitate to come over and offer his assistance. He is also in the medical field and was helpful in assessing the situation. He made a call to verify that what I thought was accurate and what we should do. Then he followed us to the hospital, parked, then came over and parked the in-laws car so we could go right in. He sat with his fiancee, my patient's daughter, the entire time--which was considerable--offering to get people coffee, water, anything they needed. He even went to find straws.

After we were discharged, we were leaving the hospital and he took the car keys from his future mother-in-law and went to bring the van around so that we didn't have to walk to where he had parked it. He didn't even need to be asked. Just did it. As he was walking away to get the van, I turned to my patient's wife and, jokingly, said, "You should keep him; he's a great guy. Is there another one like him? 'Cause I'd like a guy like that."

It's not that there aren't good men all around, it's that the good men seem to be fewer and fewer in number. I remember, when my dad was so ill and I was trying to go to school at BYU, meeting guys who I thought were nice guys. We would hang out, go play pool, or swing dancing in the Museum of Art, just enjoyed having fun. But, unfortunately, when the majority of them found out that one of my parents' was terminally ill, they couldn't hack the "adult" situation. It was really no great loss to me because those weren't the type of people I needed in my life; some people just can't handle certain situations and that's okay. That's why Heavenly Father tailor-made each experience to be for the benefit of the individual.

Tonight, a man did simple things to show how much he loves and cares for a family he has chosen to be a part of. And he did it, not to be praised by me or anyone else, but because he genuinely cared about meeting the needs he saw. He did what he could to make a difficult situation a little easier. I sometimes wonder how different my outlook on the whole dating and marriage thing would be if I had had a man care about my family, me and my needs enough to notice them and do something to ease the burdens I have had to carry.

I think my life would have been a bit different. I might look on genuine kindness without suspicion and confusion. I might be a bit kinder towards those who try to socialize with me. I might have learned to phrase questions differently so that miscommunication would not occur as often. I might know how to accept love from others.

When Muse released their latest album, The Resistance, one of the tracks caught the attention of my best friend. She told me I needed to listen to it first before anything else because the woman he sings about could be me. She said it was my love song and the man who felt this way about me would be the one to keep. After tonight, maybe I can once again begin to pray that Heavenly Father will bless me with the opportunity to have a significant relationship with a man who does feel this way about me. The problem is I've been shut down for so long, I'm not sure how to come back on-line.

Undisclosed Desires by Muse

I know you've suffered but I don't want you to hide.
It's cold and loveless, I won't let you be denied.
Soothing
I'll make you feel pure.
Trust me, you can be sure.

I want to reconcile the violence in your heart.
I want to recognize your beauty is not just a mask.
I want to exorcise the demons from your past.
I want to satisfy the undisclosed desires in your heart.

You trick your lovers that you're wicked and divine.
You may be a sinner but your innocence is mine.
Please me, show me how it's done.
Tease me, you are the one.

I want to reconcile the violence in your heart.

I want to recognize your beauty's not just a mask.

I want to exorcise the demons from your past.

I want to satisfy the undisclosed desires in your heart.

Please me.
Show me how it's done.
Trust me.
You are the one.

I want to reconcile the violence in your heart.

I want to recognize your beauty's not just a mask.

I want to exorcise the demons from your past.

I want to satisfy the undisclosed desires in your heart.